We at Life After Internet have decided against having a forum, following greyrocks1′s lead. You can read his perspective here:
Why I’m removing threads suggesting external forums/chats. (self.nosurf)
submitted February 7th, 2017 by greyrocks1
This may be an unpopular decision but I believe it’s the right one. Recently there have been requests for an external forum as well as a discord chat. Below is a post by /u/kzfgzrjkfg that he made in the discord chat thread. He sums up my exact thoughts on the idea.
“What’s up with you guys trying to organize another forum. First somebody makes a forum for nosurf and now you guys want a discord chat.
Let me tell you what is going to happen. I joined a self-improvement discord server where you got some people who update from time to time how their doing and their progress. Then you have the shitposting members who just shitpost and talk all day with the other members without working on themselves. Basically you’re going to change your internet addiction into a whatsapp group where a lot of members are going to talk all day about stuff that don’t help them at all with getting off the internet.
Everything we need to for communication we have over here. Put a little effort in reading the top posts of last month and all time and you’ll be fine.”
Like kzfgzrjkfg, I see someone trying to transmute their internet use from one form to another. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter if your on reddit, instagram, or chatting online in a discord chat. Internet use is internet use.
The discord chat expressed a desire for support. I have NO issue with you seeking support. But I urge you to reach out to people in the REAL world. The internet can provide the illusion of having friends or being social but at the end of the day you are alone. Paradoxically by seeking support and friendship online, we often eliminate the possibility of real social interaction with people in the real world. So please reach out to a sibling, a friend, a close relative or parent. I have no issue with that. If you can afford counselling then sign up for it. There are tons of free support groups in the real world. Even if they are specific to various issues try contacting them and see if they’ll let you come. I guarantee most will welcome you with open arms.
Lastly, while I think support systems can help, at the end of the day you are in this alone. And that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I urge you to develop a mindset of self reliance and faith in your own abilities. This is the most important philosophy you can adopt.
Hope you’re having fun out there in Brick&Mortar Land,